27th Mar 2006

Friends

Our true friends are those who are with us when the good things happen. They cheer us on and are pleased by our triumph. False friends only appear at difficult times, with their sad, supportive faces, when, in fact, our suffering is serving to console them for their miserable lives.

Paulo Coelho

Yup, quite true. I hate sharing my unhappy moments with people that I don’t hang around with in my happy times.

Actually I divide human being which is not me in 4 categories Image:

– People I never hang around with (people I pass some times with because of work or something but I don’t enjoy the moment are included) Image

– People I hang around with only in my good mood. In my bad mood, they drive me crazy. Image

– People I hang around with in my good mood, and in my bad moments, they don’t make things worse. Image

– People I can hang around with every times: in my good mood, we can have a nice coffee together, and in my bad mood, a coffee with them can cheer me up a little bit. Image

Nice division eh?

14 Responses to “Friends”

  1. Hieu Says:

    When I’m in bad mood, I like friends that can be with me all the time, saying nothing, hearing nothing (normally I prefer being mute in those situations), probably drinking some beer / alcohol or just feeling the air with me, and leaving me alone when asked to.

    When I’m in good mood, I like all friends, eps. those that come to me and shout at me “I envy you!” :-D

  2. hoaianh Says:

    In bad mood, i don’t hang out with friends, I hang out at shopping centre :D. This is a very dangerous but common treatment because I cover my loss (temporarily) by owning more stuffs / by feeling that I own more stuffs in compensation for the loss.

  3. Linh Says:

    For me, it’s not often that my friends know when I’m in bad mood. In my bad mood, I like
    1. Being alone, maybe sharing something with one or two friends online.
    2. Drinking beer/wine/coffee with some friends and they should’nt know (or pretend not to know) my actual mood, i.e getting drunk with friends. I’m rather talkative, at least more than normal, when I’m drunk. For me, friends who I can be with in my bad mood are those who don’t judge hastily, sympathize with and respect/like me.
    When I’m in good mood, well, I like being with friends who I like ;).

  4. Huong Says:

    I don’t sort friends by my moods; but often by who (I think) they are. The kind of persons who are nice in nature – like you guys hihi – I can share things in bad mood, good mood, or no mood at all, knowing that even if these friends say hurtful things at times, they don’t mean it and I can trust them. The kind of perons who are manipulative and mean in nature – though they might hide very well – I try not to hang with them, ever, ever; because bad mood, good mood, or no mood, they don’t care about you.

    My own moods – I can deal with them, using my own coping skills. But someone else’s nature – I cannot and often, there is no easy fix for that.

  5. Linh Says:

    Yeah, like Hoai Anh, when I’m empty and sad, I often buy things too. It’s interesting to buy something because you feel gain and lose at the same time, like love, isn’t it?

  6. today20 Says:

    To GT: Hi’ hi’, thanks for appreciation. I’m really flattered :-D

  7. today20 Says:

    Oh, so you know only a part of mine, babe :-D By the way, your avatar looks a little bit too chic and serious :-D I like the inside of Vera better :-p

  8. hoaianh Says:

    When it comes to design, i’m serious always , and i love to be chic but i’m not there yet, or may be never hahaha :D
    Please be clear that u like the inside of Vera SHOP, and not what inside their product, u make me think of … (deleted)

  9. Daisy Says:

    Em thì cảm thấy thoải mái nhất khi bên cạnh là những người bạn hiểu, thông cảm và thương yêu mình.:) Chân thành và thủy chung, một người bạn thực sự “love you as the way you are”, và chia sẻ với bạn trong cả lúc sướng vui hay đau khổ.

  10. hoaianh Says:

    Look at her avatar. I just can’t belive this comes from a girl who reads Ishiguro :D

  11. today20 Says:

    wow, why it’s deleted when you think of me :D (for example)

  12. gt Says:

    “Our true friends are those who are with us when the good things happen.They cheer us on and are pleased by our triumph” I always find out that it’s true!!! (especially for girl-friendship he he). I myself have many evidences for that declaration :D

    When I’m in bad mood I often share all things with A.Linh and really want to talk with an optimist girl here(hi’ hi’). After all, I can recover very fast by myself.

  13. FR Says:

    G, I like your avatar. It’s YOU, no doubt ;-)

  14. sonicxpx Says:

    A good friend will come and bail you out of jail…but a true friend will be sitting next to you saying: “Damn…but that was fun!” ^^, :D (non-copyright from my pal)

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